But I would!

I watched the VCD 'Heartbreakers' this afternoon. It's about a cunning mother & daughter who set up several con marriages, one at a time, with rich men... messing it up & then earn tons of money from the division of the man's assets by a divorce settlement.

When the two ladies tried to pull this con on a rich bar tender who owns the bar that's worth 3 million, the daughter 'Page' realises that this man 'Jack' (totally unaware of this con) does truly love her for who she is... even though she lied to him many times & ditched him several times too. Page discovered that she slowly began to fall in love with Jack too... & was unable to proceed with the con. Sadly, her Mum & another man forced to carry on... In the end, both Page & Jack were hurt from this marriage con.

One particular scene spoke to me & I felt that I was tearing a little bit, coz I was just so touched by Jack's words. In that scene, Page's Mum tried to seduce Jack, when her daughter Page wasn't around. Jack resisted many times, before finally deciding to leave the place. Page's Mum continued to persist, promising that her daughter will never know...

This is the part which spoke to me, when Jack replied, "But I would! I could never do that to someone I love." His words spoke right into my heart & I realised that it's not about trying to hide our mistakes, weaknesses or struggles from the person whom we truly love, be it our spouse or girlfriend / boyfriend... coz in the end, even if our loved one does not know, we still do... & we can't escape what we already know that we did... & this painful memory will always remain to haunt us unless we face up to it.

Through this show, I watched & saw for myself that really being in love with someone isn't about meeting our own needs & wants... coz no matter how much a man can feel physically satisfied from being intimate with a woman, the relationship cannot survive based on physical fulfillment alone. That isn't & cannot be the glue that holds a relationship & marriage together. In the end, everyone who does so will still end up feeling disillusioned & lost in the relationship.

I want to love my girlfriend & hopefully wife-to-be in the years to come. It is that special bonding that is important in holding & keeping us together, along with the grace & providence of God. One-sided fulfillment alone does not work... & people who solely seek along this narrow line will only find themselves feeling even more unfulfilled & even less able to really love a person, without first coming to terms with themselves & the things they selfishly seek in casual flings or a relationship.