Physical Attraction (Guy's Perspective)

What's this all about... I am trying to comprehend, from a guy's perspective. Recently, I have been hearing some of my colleagues talk about attractive women, dirty jokes, etc. I listen in, but did not join in, because I do not wish to be get involved in such unwholesome conversation. But its not easy, because their remarks does strike a cord in my mind and cause further distraction when I walk along the streets of Orchard Road, Shenton Way, etc.

Not that I really want to get distracted, but it seems so easy for guys to be distracted by attractive females, especially if these females are slim, beautiful and dress sexily. I do make intentional efforts to avoid looking, but I can't deny that there is some tugging inside my heart. Maybe that's how guys are made... attracted FIRST to the physical aspect of the opposite gender. For many years, I have been trying to change this, but it seems like I am coming to a point where I realise and have to admit that this part of human nature wouldn't change.

Perhaps this could be one of the reasons why God made men and women differently. After all, a healthy romantic relationship isn't just solely about feelings and emotions, neither is it solely about thoughts and reflections... neither is it complete when it is only spiritual or physical alone. If both men and women think and feel alike, then there would be problems! It would also affect their child's upbringing, learning and growing... because its so one-sided. But on this note, I must say that the physical aspect of guys, also known as the 'flesh', can really become an obsession for many people, even females too.

Maybe I should correct this - the physical aspect is not just an obsession for 'many' people... but rather, I would say, probably 'millions' of people around the world. Any curious person (so happens that most are guys) who clicks on the Internet, would find himself swarmed with tons of websites featuring pornographic content. Being a typical guy, I have to admit that at some point of time, I do get tempted and fall into sin. But that being said, its just so overwhelming and incredible how online pornography is so prevalent in today's society!

If I remembered correctly, there was one article that I read quite a long time ago, that said that a certain percentage of official working hours are spent on viewing online pornography at the office! I think that was a statistics from the US, but humans are all around the world, even in Singapore. At times, it doesn't even require us to search for such unwholesome material, sometimes spam mail and viruses do invade our e-mail and computers.

Thinking about it, this aspect of physical satisfaction is absolutely REAL and undeniable. I also remember listening to a sermon where the pastor shared that there are two things that are mentioned many, many times throughout the New Testament... and that is Money and Sexual Sin. I learnt from this sermon that there is a reason why the Bible keeps on reminding readers about these two areas of concern... which still exists till today... and even worse than before. Its become so scary that I just can't believe it anymore. Even kids are getting hooked onto it!

Reflecting back on my experiences struggling with this area of sin, I realised how LOST we all are... as in humans. There is just countless amount of such sinful material out in cyberspace that is so massive! I wonder what percentage of the World Wide Web is occupied by this aspect! 10%? 20%? I really hope it isn't more than that. Like I always said, everything can be used for both good and bad... sadly, many times what was used for good, soon became used for bad... and it hardly happens the other way around... I really wonder why... God must be so upset with us.

With so much content that is updated on a daily basis, I just can't help but wonder that at every single minute or hour of the day, there is bound to be many, many, many people engaged in this sort of sexual sin. Its an addiction that is worse than cigarettes and estacy! There are tons of pornographic websites (both free and pay to view) that I sometimes wonder just how massive this market has become to FUEL such a tremendous scale of addiction around the world! Its just totally unbelievable! Millions of men and women fall into sin every day!

And what really scares and shocks me, is that there are also thousands and thousands of men and women who do this to earn quick money! Earning a quick buck from the addiction of people... so manipulative... but oh well, this is the way some humans are... what to do... sigh... but its so sad... like we obviously know that the Ozone layer is getting thinner and the gap is getting bigger, but we keep doing things to make the situation worse... watch it get worse... then continue to make it even worse... shame is lost... forgotten... hardened... ignored...

At times I think about it and try to reason that these are either people who are eager to make money at the expense of good conscience and morals... or people who are just lonely, deserted, lost, rejected, distracted, helpless, depressed, divorced, etc... and thus, resort to making themselves feel good and accepted. After all, the physical satisfaction is may help them to forget their pain and agony, even if its meant only for a few moments...

My conclusion is two-fold - firstly, people are seeking to find meaning and purpose that makes their life worth living. People seek after distractions, addictions, obsessions, etc because they don't know where and what to turn towards. They don't know what else to pursue besides money, fame, personal interests and career achievements. At the end of each day, something is still left unsatisfied in their heart, mind and soul. I myself am also trying to figure this out for myself too.

Secondly, people need to love and be loved. Its all about feeling belonged, accepted and known for who we are. Its important that we learn to turn our attention towards loving ourselves and also learning to love others... especially those who are just so lost, whether in sin and/or hurt. Many a times, these people are the VERY people that we see around us... those in the bus, MRT, walking on the streets, standing at the traffic light, browsing through the magazine section, etc... even people who may look happy most of the time.

Its important to pray and learn how to differentiate between being happy (truthfully or in denial) versus being joyful. I really want to find this out for myself... I want to learn HOW to be joyful... though there are tons of possible things and people in life that make it happen otherwise... God, please help me... please...

Seriously, as much as it appeals to a guy's human nature, to enjoy admiring attractive females, there are times when I just wish otherwise. But nothing seems possible to change! I can't change the human nature of a guy... and women are enjoying the attention given to them. I have noticed women who are oblivious to men who stare lustfully at them... and I also seen women who obviously know that men are watching them, and yet continue to bask in their 'glory'. Sometimes I am just so confused at how to respond...

Perhaps... no no... this is why the Bible says that each man should have his own wife, and both are to meet each other's needs... because there is just so much immorality in this world. Of course, I have also heard that it doesn't mean that once we are married, means we would not face anymore temptation. Rather, the temptation would be even greater, as Satan enjoys to tear down healthy marriages!

That's way, you see... life is so stressful and complex. Everything can be linked to everything else. Only God can comprehend, though I am sure He is heart-broken about so much sin in this world. What I have shared is just one aspect... then there is other aspect of the LOVE for money which leads to an entirely different spread of interlocking linkages in life... so complex, huh...