Shallow But Its The Underlying Truth...

Lately, I have been thinking quite a bit about what is it about females that really attracts, or should I say, draw my attention. The more I ponder about this issue, the more I come face to face with the real hard truth that men are shallow-er when it comes to attraction towards the opposite sex. But hey, what's new? And the truth is that God made the male gender different, be it creature or human.

I wondered about animals and realised that the male animal also gets visually drawn to another female animal based on 'her' physical looks, except that it is more extreme than male humans, in the sense that they are attracted purely (or largely) due to the instinct of mating. I guess this is how God made them to be, so as to ensure the continuation of the species. And based on the rapid rate at which humans consume animals, for all kinds of delicacies, it is all the more crucial that these male animals procreate as frequent as possible, so as to increase the chances of survival of their species.

But the point is - male animals are visually attracted to their female counterparts. Male humans, on the other hand, are similar too... except that there is a possibility of a cultivating of a relationship with the opposite sex. But even before that happens, the male human has to be visually drawn to the female first. In a way, this makes me wonder how online dating really takes place, when there is such a high chance of faking a person's identity and selective use of photos, etc. I mean, how can one be sure, unless they meet up? And even if they meet up, how can one be sure that this is really the person whom he/she has been relating online? It could well be their friend, who is employing a tactic to scout out for suitable friends or partners. Why not?

Anyway, the point is - I find that it is SO real that men has to be visually attracted to a female, before considering starting a relationship with her. I mean, it doesn't have to be a red-hot sizzling visual attraction (though that REALLY helps, even in the long run), but at least, that guy must not be turned off by that female. Well, the acceptance of turn off habits vary from guy to guy, but that's another story.

Is it possible to feel drawn to an attractive female without desiring intimacy with her? For me, this is something that I have pondering. So far, it seems possible. I mean, there are so many visually attractive females (especially the young ones in their 20s up to maybe 30) that I literally feel overwhelmed with choice! Of course, the quantity of such 'sights' vary from location to location, but its more or less there, at least for the younger crowd. Naturally, there are also the contrast of NON visually attractive females, though a slight acceptance of 'defect' is possible, recognising that these real life females are not perfect looks and figured comic book characters.

For me, I find myself visually attracted to slightly younger females, but it isn't a desire for intimacy. As I grow older, I find myself starting to admire and appreciate female physical beauty. Apart from the natural attention to parts like slim legs, hour-glass figure, endowed 'assets'... I have begun to start wondering about how the facial features can REALLY make a difference and impact in visual attraction. And my conclusion is YES!

I have seen females, even older women, who can have a good figure, legs, assets, etc... but it doesn't mean that they look pretty... much less to use the word 'beautiful'. Of course, others can always argue that physical beauty is skin deep, but does this aspect not exist? I mean, definitely everyone gets old... it is a natural process of ageing... but I have seen older women who know how to age gracefully and still one can tell that she used to be very pretty when young, coz she still maintains that tinge of facial beauty, even now when she is much older. Believe me, there are such females around... not too many, but there are. And I really wonder how much their husbands whole heartedly admire and appreciate that about them.

I guess males do appreciate and are visually drawn to females who upkeep themselves. And if isn't about the idea that after married, it doesn't matter. In fact, after getting married, it matters EVEN more, coz to lose a part of the attraction that existed initially, is to lose a part of the attraction for and towards each other. And that is a serious thing, especially for some men... or should I say, most men. I mean, why should a male stop being visually attracted to their partner after getting married? Does that psychology change after putting on a ring or saying a vow? I don't think so... not at all! Not at all, at all! In fact, I believe most guys have to appreciate or at least accept the attractiveness of his partner, before considering being married to her. And I believe (or at least I am hoping) God is fair too - in the sense that He wouldn't force a man or a woman to purposely marry another person of the opposite sex, if there is simply nothing that he/she is attracted to, in the first place!

So where does this leave me? Well, I don't know... though I do upkeep my physical stature, even after I got married... not just for myself, but for my wife too. Even if my wife doesn't bother, it still bothers me, and I would still do it for myself, coz I can't stand being unfit, fat and unhealthy. Why should I ruin my body? And I always believe that our body is our responsibility.

As for all the physically attractive females out there, well... this isn't going to change... and in a way, I am glad that it stays that way, coz its really a nice sight to see physical beauty around (I mean, that's why people travel to see physical beauty right? Buildings, beaches, skies, etc are all visual physical beauty)... and neither can I will (even if I wanted to) my psychology to change, so I guess I would just have to continue this way for the rest of my life. Well, this is part of life - people. I am no Robinson Crusoe...